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Hey you guys! I hope your year has started great. I hope you have been setting yourself up to have a great year by creating your short, long, and quarterly goals. It’s time to make sure we are being productive and going after everything we want in life.
This month, I intended to talk about something else, but somehow, I wound up here. Stop accepting “Mediocre” from people when you’re giving them your best. I learned I was taking what people gave me and not demanding what I deserve. As I look back over my life, the things accepted and allowed was self-betrayal. It painted an ugly picture of how I saw myself. I wasn’t getting anything in return or just getting the bare minimum. (Crazy Right) When I think about all, I offered people and gave, I depreciated myself.
I can’t blame them because I allowed it. You know the saying, “people will do to you what you allow.” I can 100% say that statement is true. Now that I have been doing introspection, I can no longer accept anything. I’m discovering my voice and advocating for myself. I’ve lost a lot of people along the way. Some of the people shocked me. I would never have thought they would be apart of the number. I’ve had hard conversations. I’ve expressed what I needed. I gave them time to put forth an effort and nothing. I can now hold them accountable because I let them know my expectations. I had to become okay with losing people. Do you know how hard it is to lose people you’ve invested so much in and didn’t get a return on your investment? They treated you like you were disposable. Yea, it’s a hard gut punch. I’m getting this grieving thing down. LOL
This year I’m implementing/learning healthy boundaries. I’m focusing more on myself, remembering to put the same energy I’ve giving people into me. It has not been easy. Check out my last two blogs; you’ll understand why. If you have some tips for creating healthy boundaries or some of the things that helped you, please share them. I open to suggestions.
I want to encourage you if the relationship/friendship is worth salvaging, then have a conversation with them. Allow them the opportunity to improve. You know what to do if no effort follows the discussions. We are not accepting Mediocre anymore. Start demanding what you deserve. You’re worth it, and You deserve better. If they want to keep you in their life, they’ll make the necessary modifications. Remember you bring something to the table. Remember, it’s a privilege for them to be apart of your life. You don’t owe them anything.
I pray that God staffs you with people who want the absolute best for you. They don’t only say it, but their actions match their words. You deserve someone to be intentional about you the same way you are about them. And That’s in Friendships and relationships.
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Until next time. Be good to yourself.